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Everyone wants to have a fulfilling relationship with someone who will have fun with them and share their passions in life. No one specifically asks for someone who is going to hurt them and make them crazy, but many people instead end up in a toxic relationship without even realizing what has happened. When things start out well, it can be difficult to let go once the situation has shifted. We want to believe those we love will change and come back to us even if it's apparent the situation is an unhealthy one. If you know where to draw the line, it's much easier to remove yourself from a toxic relationship.

There are several clear-cut signs that a relationship is toxic. If it endangers your health, safety or emotional well-being in any way, it is considered toxic and you should not take part. Often there are changes that can be made following counseling and deliberate steps toward self-improvement, but until that time you should remove yourself from the relationship.

1. Abuse
Any physical, emotional or verbal abuse is simply intolerable. It poses a threat to your general safety and mental well-being. If you are being physically hurt or feel badly with your partner because they are overly negative, controlling or otherwise emotionally invasive it is not considered a healthy relationship . If through counseling and sincere effort there does not appear to be any change, do not feel guilty about extricating yourself from the relationship and seeking to create a healthy environment for your life. That is your right.

2. Addictions

Although you may wish to help someone who is suffering from some addiction, it is not your responsibility to partake in a relationship with someone who cannot be fully present. Seek professional guidance and support them as much as you are capable, but keep enough distance that your life is not negatively affected.

3. Personality Disorder or Mental Illness
Some people are simply unwell and cannot function normally in a healthy relationship. There are certain personality disorders which render an individual incapable of relating to others or taking responsibility for their actions and behaviors. Wish them healing, and get yourself out of that relationship as quickly as possible.

4. Infidelity
Some people who have experienced infidelity in their relationships are able to find a way to move past it and continue on in the relationship, but it is one of the major deal-breakers in relationships. It is particularly damaging if it occurs more than once. Do not feel it is your obligation to stay with someone who defiles your trust in this way.