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By LifeAdviceSite.com
It's a casual world. We get away with t-shirts and jeans for just about eve ry occasion. If done properly, they can even look great - cute, sexy, and "put together". Plus, we're evolved, and
in this day and age, we're supposed to judge one another by the content
of our character, not by what we're wearing on the outside. We
definitely shouldn't have to try to impress someone or be something
we're not - especially on a first date! They should get to know who we
are right away.
Agreed?
Yes.
Although...
While a casual Joe may be who you are, there are times - like a first date - when  you can and should make
just a little bit more of an effort. I'm not suggesting you go for a
3-piece suit, unless of course you are attending some sort of venue
which would call for such formality. Just step it up a notch. As a guy,
if you normally wear dress pants anchored with a nice belt, oxford
shoes and a button down shirt - great! As a woman, if your work look is
a skirt or a coordinated pantsuit and you lose the jacket to show off a
pretty blouse - fantastic! You both look fabulous, now go be fabulous!
Now for the rest of you...
I would never suggest that
you should hide or try to disguise who you are. No matter what your
characteristics and qualities, there is someone who is going to be a
perfect fit, who will love you just as you are. That doesn't mean you
shouldn't make an effort. I know my husband will still love me even
though I have garlic breath from dinner. That doesn't mean I won't go
brush my teeth so he can enjoy kissing me a little more.
It's not about being
something you're not, or putting on a facade. If it isn't who you are
and what you normally wear, that's OK! You can even share that
information with your date. What's important here is that you are
making an effort. You are showing your date that their time, effort,
and their company is important enough to you that you put thought,
time, and effort of your own into the meeting. You planned ahead, and
cared enough about them to look nice for them. In the end, it's the
gesture which makes the impression.
Whether you're a mechanic
who is always covered in grease, or a daycare worker who has to wear
jeans and a smock every day, dating is the time to be your best version
of you. Unless your date has been specifically planned as a heavy-duty
hike, mucking stable stalls, or some other event that will dictate
relaxed, it's-ok-to-get-dirty clothing, then do your best. If dressy or
business casual is too far out of your box, then try the next box. Go
for a nice pair of khakis. If you're used to t-shirts, as a man, it may
be tough to get as far as a tailored, button-down shirt, or as a woman,
a dressy blouse may be too much of a stretch. Try out a collard oxford
shirt or basic cotton shirt free of writing or logos. They're clean and
put together, but not overly dressy so you won't feel out of place.
Just make sure your outfit is clean, not overly wrinkled, and free of
rips.
Remember, you're the one
who is supposed to shine - not your outfit. Pick something simple,
clean and uncluttered so your date can focus on you!
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